06th Jan 2009
I have my suspicions that my girlfriend is cheating on me with an old ex. She is acting very odd and always texting him and not letting me anywhere near her when she is texting by making excuses like going to toilet all the time with mobile. I saw a few of the texts by accident and they had a very sexual content. I have been with her for a month now and she says she loves me and would never cheat on me or leave me - but I don't know if that is the truth. I have tried talking to her about it but she just keeps telling me that she will never cheat on me and I look after her and she says she feels safe and secure with me. I am only suspicious because my ex cheated on my for 6 years and hid it well as it took me that long to work it out and don't want it to happen again. The signs are similar in the way she is behaving too.oh man...she is cheating on you already. unbelievable. girls like her piss me off--how can you cheat that soon into the relationship. alright listen, when you break up with someone you do not talk to them on a regular basis unless you want to be with them again. and the fact that you "accidentally" saw some texts that were sexual goes to show that she really is cheating. dont be blind to this okay? you know whats going on so get out while you still can. and one month into a relationship is way too soon to say "i love you"...to me that shows her desperation for attention and love--which also leads me to believe she is a cheater. ill let you know- i dated a guy for close to 3 years that i was totally totally into and things didnt work out for us...i met a new guy that i liked and could see a future with--i immedately stopped communication with the ex-there was no need to talk to him at that point. i have now been with my current boyfriend for close to an year n a half and am happier than ever. my ex contacted me a few times throughout that time and a casual reply is all i gave. i was also honest and told me boyfriend each time he contacted me. honesty and loyalty is the way to go my friend--dump her and move on. good luck :-)Well, tell her that you want to talk to her face to face, and tell her that you are watching her, and if she is cheating on you, tell her your never going to forgive her. And if she says no she is not, say you will see, and tell her you will see about it. Well bottom line stay strong, this is the only way if you dont want to follow her like a stocker, if she is so stubborn she may break up with you. sorry to say that, but hope it works out.well why not try talking to her ex, if she won't tell you the truth maybe he will. but from the signs i would say she is.Even if she's not cheating she's being secretive which isn't a good sign.
well let me start off by saying i'm sorry about you past relationship. I personally don't know your girlfriend, but if she's hiding it from you & you saw some of her text then you need to confront her. I'm sorry but you've only been dating for a month & she loves you already but she's acting funny. Your suspicions are correct because I use to be like that. She's not over her ex. I know its not something you want to hear but do what you think is right. Maybe thats how it's going to start off as a little bumpy then it'll get better...sounds to me like you are a bit of a control freak and whiny.
She may be tired of you always asking her to promise she will never hurt you. Maybe try to have some fun with her instead of being a little whiney brat.
well if that is the case maybe she is cheating on you but u need to see it out.don,t look for something you can,t have , if you feel that way than move on , it will take grieving time , go through that and then be careful who you pick the next time , she knows,she has the power over you and knows your too weak to leave ,now emotion runs all our lives and that fires slower than logic so you won,t do anything unless your forced,try to be strong, she will do this to you all her life , those characteristics are formed and won,t changeYou need to trust your instincts, when people get involved and feelings are involved you know in your heart what is wrong. An sometimes you just need to trust your instincts. Talk to her and ask her why don't she let you see the texts or why she is always running to the bathroom to text him? Tell her that although you care for her you will not be with anyone that is going to cheat on you.
Then wait until she is asleep and look at the text messages, because if she is not cheating now she is thinking of cheating.do you have good sex ?OK, you saw texts of a sexual nature, and your girlfriend of 672 hours won't let you see texts and is always sneaking away- NO WAY IS SHE CHEATING ON YOU THEN!I think that she probably is cheating after those texts you saw and the fact that she won't talk to you about it. Even if she isn't cheating, you don't trust her. I think you need time after what happened in your last relationship. You need to be able to fully trust someone and strong enough to get hurt in the worst case scenario. It sounds to me like you need time to recover and mend your heart. I think that you should be honest with her. Tell her that you like or love her, but your honestly not ready to be in a relationship with her because you don't trust her. Maybe in the future things will work out between you two. I think, she is cheating you. Stay away.
Dump her she is just playing you. When a person says that they would never cheat that is the first thing they do.She is lying. There is definitely something going on with the ex, and she's handing you a line. Feeling safe and secure with someone is fine, but she isn't showing how much she appreciates it. If she is living with you, tell her to pack up and get out. You don't need someone like that. Man she is cheating, point blank. I been there done that and how in the world can you truly love someone in a months' time. If her actions aren't adding up with her words then there's your problem right there. And you are already sensitive to a cheater so you know what to look for and you know the feeling you get. Its only been a month so don't stress it, let her go if she wanna play games. People these days don't have time for it and you shouldn't either cause you dealt with is for 6yrs prior. Normally your gut feeling is right. If she has to hide everything and kinda gets defensive when you ask your probably right. Just tell her that you cant deal with it if she is always texting him and whatnot. There are plenty of other people out thereneed to confront her with the issues you have, not a general accusation, specific instances that make you suspicious (the texts you've seen, her behaviors.) If she gets defensive, then you know its going on. If there is no trust there is no relationship ,get over it . ,but if you are not trusting in that relationship get out and heal your self. Good luck!As far as I am concerned, she shouldnt even be texting her ex boyfriend. If she knows it bothers you, she should end it immediately. When I started dating a my now husband, he said he didn't like me talking to an ex and I deleted his number. Even if she is not physically cheating yet she is emotional cheating, meaning she is thinking about someone else and has feelings for him, and it will probably turn to physical cheating later on. Obviously, her heart is not all in your relationship and she is hung up on this other guy, or maybe they are friends and thats how they talk to each other, which is inappropriate. Talk to her and tell her how it makes you feel, and if she is commited and loves you she will end the relationship with the guy if not she will keep sneaking around your back. If it was innocent would she really feel the need to hide it? Think about itSounds suspicious to me, if you have your doubts then chances are she is either cheating by sleeping with him or cheating by texting him in a sexual manner, either way you should move on before she breaks your heart. A month into the relationship, yeh you will get over it no problems.#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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