06th Jan 2009
yes im 13 and my boyfriend is 15.
im young i know, and im not asking this question to hear ur stupid or its my parents fault Cause its not. it was my choice to have sex an now im dealing with the consequence.and adoption is out of the question.
me and my boyfriend are still together.
i told my parents when i was 1 month, sadly they kicked me out of my house and i now live with my boyfriend and his parents.
my boyfriends parents are mad but they know they are all i have now and are giving me all the help they can give me.
i need to know what the pregnancy will be like
im already showing
thanks to the ppl that help oooh girl. im sorry for your situation. first, everyones pregnancy is different. mine was hard; i was sick a lot had medical problems. there are a lot of aches and pains that come with it. but since your so young i couldnt tell you what will happen to you.
just take it one day at a time, and hang in there.
good luck girl, you gone need it!I will be honest with you it will be a emotion, mental and physical roller coaster from here on out. Its good that his parents have helped you. Every pregnancy is different - not all women get the same experiences or symptoms, so it's hard to tell you what it will be like. There are obvious answers like - you'll get bigger, start feeling the baby moving etc. But there are also things that you may not get, for example thrush, BH.
www.babycentre.co.uk
This website is brilliant. It will help you a lot. Plus, it tells you what your little one is doing every week!well honestly im not gonna lecture you...im a guy and unlike most guys i look stupid lol but i think im kinda smart with stupid sh*t like girl stuff...but i suggest you go to the doctor and get an abortion... your parents will deff let you back into your house... i know that its kind of weird to talk about this with a guy but i have a lot of friends who went through this and the best thing to do is talk about it... if u wanna talk on aim let me know
im only 16 so we can relate... hope this helps...dont worry everything will be finee =]Wow! I think it is great that you are willing to make the sacrifices to keep your baby! That shows how much you already love him/her and are willing to do whatever it takes. Good for you. It is also great that his parents are willing to help out right now, after all they are the grandparents. Your parents will probably come around soon. My sis got pregnant young and my dad didn't come around until after the baby was born and now he is totally devoted to him.
You could ask his mom about pregnancies or there are crisis pregnancy centers that can help and give advice, tips, or just listen. I do NOT mean Planned Parenthood ~ they push abortion. There are others that will support you in whatever your choice, you know just hold your hand kind of thing.
Anyway, like everyone else says all pregnancies are different. My two were total opposites. One pregnancy, I had morning sickness, painful delivery and sore for months after. The other, not sick a day, super easy delivery, and feeling great that same day.
Pray to God for wisdom, health for you and baby, support system, good doctors, and easy delivery.
Thrift stores and consignment shops are excellent places for maternity clothes and reasonable prices.
Have you seen the movie JUNO? You might find it inspiring, not necessarily the adoption, but her overall attitude.
Oh yeah, avoid saccrahin and aspartame. Check the ingredient list of everything you eat! Both are very BAD for the baby.
Also, avoid taking any meds without checking with your doctor first, even over the counter meds.
If you are not already taking prenatal vitamins, you need to go to the doctor and get some.Well first of all, your parents cannot kick you out that's child neglect and against the law because you are underage. It depends on your standpoint in determining what the pregnancy will be like. I'm happy that you are not like other immature kids who get pregnant and have abortions and end up in jail because they wanna throw away babies. Your parents are reacting normal to the situation because they are upset. You're only 13. Well i'm 19 and i still get "The Talk" but my parents cannot imagine life without their grand baby. But as far as kicking you out that's illegal considering that you are under age.I can only imagine what you're going through, with so many people judging you. I had my first daughter at 19 and wasn't married, so I dealt with a lot of that myself. I'm sure that you will go through lots of emotions, due to the hormones. You will experience pains in the back, legs, stomach, etc., but they will go away. The pain of labor is different for every woman and with every pregnancy. Just take care of yourself by eating right and getting plenty of rest and you should be fine. I really do wish you the best of luck!Well really i should be saying congratulations! You are going to be bringing a child in to the world who you will love unconditionally. It is a shame that your parents have reacted the way they have, I hope they see some sense in the months to come and invite you back home. You need all the support you can get.
It will be very hard bringing a child up at your age but is probably one of the most rewarding roles you will ever have, I know of people who had children at your ages and they are so happy and dont regret it on the whole. The only thing they regret is not being a 'normal' teenager.
I know not much help with what pregnancy will be like but just a few words of encouragement!
Good luck!....Stay in school. And sorry, but you should feel ashamed, look at the future your baby is going to have. WOW... I'm 14 and I thought about having sex but I was scared of what my parents would think. I'm glad ur bf sounds like he's supportive and not going to run away like the cowards MOST men are. My advice is to stay in school! You will need that to help u get a good job when u are old enough. U should also start going to church. That way u will have the support of other people too. This baby should have God in his/her life. Also ask ur bf mom about this it will really help if u talk to someone one-on-one... I will pray for u and hope that GOD will bless u and ur baby and ur bf. You may become very emotional because you are of a young age...You may experience depression and pain due to pregnancy...of course your belly is going to show because you have passed 3 months..and just keep your head held high......contact me at rebwhi16@yahoo.com if you have anymore questions... you should have regular ante natal care hun which will give you an insight into how your baby will be developing week by week, and make sure you go to your visits with the midwife.
as for your parents im sure they will come round, i had my first child at 20...i know thats a little older than you but i had very strict parents and they were devestated. after a while they came round to the idea and now they dote on my daughter and wouldnt change things for the world. no parent should give up on their child every one makes mistakes, keep trying to talk with them and ask them for your help, you need your parents more than ever now sweets xxto be honest everyones different in pregnancy. Im 25 weeks pregnant at mo due 6th feb 09. I have had no morning sickness no indigestion (touch wood) ive had a few aches and pains but this are normal as your body changes to accomodate your baby ionly started showing around 20 weeks and im not huge everyone tells me im so neat ive put weight on around the hips and bottom (lucky me cant you tell its a girl). Honestly tho every one seems to have completley different experiences so no one can truly tell you what it will be like.
Im sure your parents will eventually come round and im glad your boyfriend is sticking by you yes you are young but im sure you will be fine dont worry there is alot of different help groups for young mums
good luck :-) xWhile I certainly will not judge, you or your choices, I know you had another avenue to take, hpwever, you decided that you wanted to continue your pregnancy. Now I know people will think unfavorably towards me regarding abortion, but I do not care. However, it is too late now.
You need to have regular medical care, and eat properly and take care of yourself. Walk to get some exercise. Talk to your doctor. There are many movies and educational dvd's you can watch about child birth.
Pregnancy can be hard, and so can labor it depends on your body. Since you are so young it may be even harder. You need to be on birth control after you deliver the child. Your parents are responsible for you and they should be made liable by the courts. You need to get them to pay for medical care and help you. Be glad your boyfriends parents are more responsible than yours. Go to children and families and get on assistance immediately.
Good luckThis will be a tough time for you but as long as you have somewhat of a support system, things will be okay.
Labor is different for every woman so I can't pinpoint and tell you exactly what it will be like. You will get bigger and there will be pain involved. But at the end, you will have an adorable blessing in your arms which takes away from the pain.
You're young and you should have been more careful but I am not here to judge you.. so instead I will applaud you for doing the right thing and taking responsibility for your actions. I wish you and your boyfriend the best.well me and you are the same in months right now. im pregnant with a boy. =) dont listen to all these negative comments. everyone will always have a comment about your age but i know many people who have gotten pregnant at a young age and while life is a little tougher "god always has a reason". but none the less you are very brave and made the right decision in take care of your situation and not thinking about abortion or adoption. I totally have respect for you on that. well morning sickness may have passed. just like me and you we are starting to show. you may feel sharp pains once in ahile (not all the time or ask your dr. about that) you may have experienced some belly button pain. all this is because your uterus is aboout the size of a cantaloupe. and is growing. you should of started to feel the baby move or very soon will feel your little blessing moving. may feel like flutterring or gas bubbles or popcorn popping. for me it feels like popcorn popping. hmmmm, sleep if it hasnt already will get uncomfortable, and then very uncomfortable. also milk well clear fluid may start leaking if you push your nipples allittle around month 5. you only get bigger and bigger from this point on. oh make sure you dont eat chocolate (many pregnant women dont know this, chocolate contains caffeine, tea contains caffeine, even brisk tea!, nesquik, all that stuff is a noo noo, all fishes except salmon) .... about 30 weeks you may feel some pain when the baby starts moving. REallY hard pains and that is just because the baby is starting to move into the birth position and also because the baby doesnt have lots of room in your tummy anymore. also enjoy the kickings as your start to get closer to your due date your feel the baby in your rib cages and it will hurt but just enjoy. Just think like i do ("im almost half way there" =) you just need about another 4 1/2 more months to go and our beautiful babies will be here =) ..... very exciting..also you shouldnt get depressed, dont let that stuff get to you. i know girls who have gotten pregnant young and then have their babies take care of their baby for about a year or so (until their babies can start getting babysitted) and signed their babies up for daycare or in your case have wonderful grandparents who help and they continue school and use their child as a motivation to be the best that they can be. i know a women who continued throughout school and end up getting a masters. it took her long and it was hard but she did it and gave her baby the best life she could. it takes alot of dedication but i know people that have done it. so NO YOUR LIFE IS NOOTTTT over! people have comments but be strong. Enjoy being pregnant, this is your first blessing. Also a tip; whenever i get cranky or moody i always just remind myself its not healthy for the baby and i lie down and just rest and get up when i feel better to not snap so easily. take care my love and enjoy! =P Pregnancy is difficult, childbirth is difficult. But having a child is very rewarding. If you're 4 months, you're already past the worse part which is nausea, morning sickness, headaches. Around 7 months you should start feeling the baby kick and those can be painful. Just stay strong and don't give up on your education. Whatever you do, STAY IN SCHOOL and go to college if possible. Do what you can to make the best life possible for this child. And after this baby, get on some birth control and stay on it until you are ready for another child. Best wishes to you.Hi sweetheart. It sounds like you're stepping up and that's great. Just know that all pregnancies are different. You may have a unique case, as your body hasn't fully developed. Just to be on the safe side, find a good doctor that will guide you well. Also, buy the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting". It's a great insight into what you will be facing. You can get it at Wal-Mart or Target for about $15. Take good care of yourself and always put the baby first. Good luck and God Bless.Well, it's not going to be easy. Sounds like you should be passed the morning sickness stage if you had that. You will continue to feel tired. The bigger I got, the more my back hurt and the worse my heartburn got. Try to keep your stress level down as low as possible. Eat and drink as healthy as you can and make sure you are on pre-natal vitamins. Since you are so young, you should probably get used to the sideways stares at the supermarket and the comments. You are already pregnant and you have already decided to keep the baby, so from here on out only that baby and you and your boyfriend (and his parents) should matter. Stay in school!No one can tell you what your pregnancy will be like, every women is different and has different experiences. Sorry but you should have asked yourself this question before you had sex. If you though yourself mature enough you should have though about using birth control and if you did then you both should have been more careful. Pregnancy and labor will be the most demanding and physical stress you will even put on your body. It will even be more so because at your age you are still growing. You mentioned adoption is not for you but give it a good hard look. At 13 and 15 you and your boyfriend have your whole lives ahead of you. There is plenty of time to start a family after both of you have finished school and are financially stable. Living with parents is not the way to start a family (I know from experience). You would be giving this child that I am sure you love dearly a better chance of having a stable environment. That is the best love any one can give. Think hard about it. Whatever you choose after having this baby please take care of yourself and use some form of birth control. Don't be another statistic and keep having baby after baby just because you can. Make a difference with your life and for your future children. Good luck.#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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